July 08, 2009

The Kid Is So My Son

There's been a lot of talk and speculation -- and possibly even some facts, though I haven't seen them -- indicating that some or all of Michael Jackson's children aren't biologically his.

I don't know who their gene daddy is, or what DNA mashup was the genesis of the Jackson kids. The consensus is that they are gorgeous and poised now that we've seen them quite literally unveiled.

What IRKS me are the people who blabber on about what kids of color (not black, not white, but the colorful ones) (what I long ago on this blog called extraethnic, which maybe should have been intraethnic, or interethnic, or just plain KIDS, hello, I don't know) SHOULD look like. (p.s. we're all mixed; deal with it.)

"Those kids are not his. No way. YOU should know what mixed kids look like--those are not mixed kids," one mom with a son of mixed heritage said to me last week.

I was like, um, I don't get it. True, they could quite possibly not be his. They could be his. They could not be his. I can't tell you.

Someone else today said to me, "Those kids aren't his. They are not mixed."

Sure, Paris with her blue eyes, it's a long shot genetically speaking, but it's not unheard of. I haven't seen ALL the Jackson relatives. I don't presume to know. Why should any of us presume to know?

I've seen every permutation of DNA, every hue, every hair type mixed with every melanin level, every highlight, freckle, and eye color combination imaginable in my 25 years as a card-carrying member of the 'mixed relationship' club.

Even if they're not Michael's biological kids, does that mean the father was Caucasian?

What would you like to do, say, "Turn her hands palm up and let's see if she's mixed"? I'm here to tell you, you still wouldn't know.

I'm not saying that these kids are biologically Michael Jackson's or that they aren't, and I'm not bothered that people have OPINIONS because goodness knows this is the Interweb and without an opinion you might as well stay home...

BUT...

...don't tell me what specific qualities of appearance a growing child, a child in media res, needs to demonstrate in order to be defined as non-white.

Identity is precious and takes decades to develop - we're lucky if we figure out our personal configurations while we're still on this planet. Identity is nothing to be toyed with, except by its owner. Or maybe it is.

So I say, ask a white-black middleman, ask me, ask someone you know, or ask no one, but definitely ask yourself this: What are your preconceptions of what mixed kids look like, what defines mixed, and where did you get the information? What if you're wrong? What if white is black and black is white?

What if Jesus had hair like wool and skin the color of copper like it says in your Bible, not blue eyes and locks of gold?

Who's identity are you really unsure about? Really?

Maybe its the man in the mirror's.

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4 comments:

Adaeze said...
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Adaeze said...

this is an amazing post. i stumbled upon it while trying to google images of Boris Becker's family. and as a product of a mixed race union myself, i have many times had people doubt my heritage. I often wonder what biology degree gives them the right to tell me what i am made up of.
what a lovely post. thank you.

Lost1Wons said...

Whatever, you can look at Boris Becker or whatever his-name-is kids and tell they are ethnic looking even with their blue eyes and silky hair (you can see the African ancestry in their noses and the roots of their hair, but take a look at Michael Jackson's kids, you do not see one hint of African American heritage in them, and Michael was a very unique looking African American when he was black (he had a huge nose, big round eyes, etc.) All of Michael's brothers and sisters even look alike, but his kids DO NOT! Some1 needs to slap the shit outta this falsisity. True, they carry his spirit and will maintain his money, but they should never play "the biracial card". -Especially when you are plainly caucasion looking.

ambersmum said...

Thank you very much for this post. It is so freshing to hear views like this. I am a Black woman I would say of Darker skin than Michael Jackson and I am married to a white man. My daughter has white skin and grey eyes and she is absoulutely perfect. So It is very possible everyone It was not a suprise to me at all its quite normal and more common than you think. I actually know a few people who have white skin and are mixed race.